Using the Relationship Timer

The timer is a handy tool for nurturing meaningful conversations. Agree to the 3 agreements below. Alternate sharing and listening for 2 minutes with the Relationship Timer. That’s it. Super simple and yet the start of something special.

Relationship Timer
Safe Harbor Timer

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The 3 Agreements

Stop

If either person feels the conversation is getting too heated, you must stop.

You can say something like: “I need to take a break” or “let’s take a break.”

This is the most important step in creating the safety needed for a deeper connection with each other. Each person must respect the STOP.

Take a Break

After the STOP, get up and leave the room to cool down so you can come back and listen. Start with 10 minutes. Take 10 deep breaths. Then ask yourself four questions:

  1. What am I feeling?

  2. What do I want?

  3. What do I think the other person is feeling?

  4. What do I think they are wanting?

Then, return on time to continue sharing
or plan for more time.

Return to Listen

Use a 2 minute timer and don’t interrupt.
You must both use the 2 minute timer and you must not interrupt. 
Both steps are critical.

If you’re not using both…. no safe harbor.